I often hear people express the idea that if you think you need a certain style of worship, you're being selfish. They say that if you choose a church based on the style of worship, you're sinning. They tell you that church isn't about you; it's about the Lord...and then they proceed to assume that their own church offers a kind of worship that you should support.
Imagine for a moment that a whole bunch of new people move into your area. They are all Japanese. Over the years, your church gains a significant minority of Japanese people. You thank God. The worship services start to include some phrases in Japanese. You don't mind; you slowly learn some Japanese. Then imagine that you get to church one week and the entire service is in Japanese. The sermon is preached haltingly. A couple of days later, you ask the pastor what's going on. He explains that we need to encourage our Japanese people, so everything is going to be in Japanese for now. He tells you that worship isn't about you; it's about the Lord. Over the next few weeks, some of the others whose first language is English complain or leave or ask about putting some English back into the worship. They are told that things are going to stay as they are; that the church doesn't have anyone who can speak good enough English to lead part of the worship in English. When someone volunteers to help start an alternative worship service in his native English, he's told that the church doesn't have enough people to have two worship services. Now, what do you do? You can speak just enough Japanese to get by. You love your Japanese brothers and sisters, but find that you cannot whole-heartedly worship the Lord in Japanese, no matter how hard you try. Is it OK for you to look for another church?
Music is a language of the heart, just as words are. Over the years, I've learned more different cultures in music. I can worship the Lord in several of them, but not in all of them. I'm glad that my church uses some styles of music that I merely tolerate, since those styles speak to others, but I'd find it very difficult if we never used a style that hit my heart.
The Bible tells us to love our neighbors as ourselves. It tells us to make disciples of all nations. Paul said, "I have become all things to all men, that by all means I might save some." If we really love others as ourselves, in planning church music let's try to include styles that speak to those whom the Lord is sending our way. Let's also humbly admit that the styles we most love don't speak deeply to everyone, and that the styles we most dislike may be exactly what's needed to meet the heart-needs of others.